Most Common Parenting Mistakes To Avoid At All Costs! It is every parent’s nightmare to end up doing something that harms their child. We always want the best for our children and we have various ways of parenting to ensure they get that. I have observed the parents of many of my daughter’s friends and tried to learn about their parenting styles. Here are some types of parents you definitely wouldn’t want to be!
1. The Clueless Parents
I’ve noticed that a lot of working parents belong to this category, but sometimes housewives are this way too. These are the parents who have no clue what is happening in their children’s lives. They are uninvolved and tend to leave the kids to themselves quite often. Not only is this a huge parenting mistake, it is also quite detrimental to the child’s growth and development.
2. The Helicopters
Have you ever noticed that mom who brings her son or daughter fresh meals at recess times in school? Or the one who tags along to a birthday party with her 15 year old? These are the overly involved parents who keep hovering over their children wherever they go. Helicopter parenting style is rather intrusive, and it most often happens due to over-attachment or anxiety. This parenting mistake can cause difficulties in a child’s social adjustment.
3. The Doormats
I strongly dislike one of my daughter’s friends purely because of the way I’ve seen her treat her parents. It’s surprising to me that they let her get away with it, too. This girl insults and shames her parents and gets her way by making them feel guilty over one thing or another. You don’t have to be a stay-at-home mom to be this kind of a pushover, this happens equally with working parents, too. You do not want to be the kind of parent who lets their kids walk all over them; it creates a toxic parent-child relationship. It makes your child become obnoxious and often leads to bullying among peers.
4. The Military Sergeant
I’m sure you know at least one parent who is so strict that their children fear them more than they love them. I have seen mothers and fathers both being extremely authoritarian, choking out their child’s freedom and often even happiness. Being overly strict is a massive parenting mistake you should avoid at all costs unless you’re okay with your child eventually beginning to hate you.
5. The Bitter Gourd
This is by far the most unpleasant parenting style I’ve ever seen and it is surprisingly common in today’s world. These are the kind of parents who will criticise, taunt and discourage their children at every step. They complain about random things, are never satisfied with anything their child does and they often even blame them for things they had nothing to do with. This common parenting mistake establishes a toxic parent-child relationship and heavily affects the child’s self-esteem.
6. The BFF
Last but not the least, these are the parents who try too hard. Parents who are trying to be their children’s best friends forever (BFFs) usually have a lot of difficulty disciplining kids. As a parent, you have a specific role in your child’s life and you can’t do justice to it if you’re trying to fit into some other role instead. It’s okay to sometimes be the bad guy and teach your children important life lessons that their friends can’t. Being friends with your kids is not a parenting mistake by any measure, but it becomes problematic if you try to become a BFF.