Buying My Daughter Her First Bra

By Harita Patil|3 - 4 mins| July 17, 2020

Beginner Bras Can Be Both Exciting And Terrifying For Your Daughter. Do you remember getting your first bra? You probably do. It is an emotionally charged moment that most women will remember for the rest of their lives. It signifies a huge milestone of growth, marking one of your first steps towards becoming a woman. This moment comes only once in a girl’s life, so it’s very important to do it right. Here are a few ideas to help you understand the right time to buy your daughter her first bra.

Lay The Foundations

No matter what route you choose to take to guide your daughter through puberty, communication will be key. Right from the time your daughter turns 8-9 years old, start discussing the changes she should expect in her body. It will help in two ways. Your daughter will be more comfortable with the changes and she’ll be able to communicate freely with you. When it’s time for a beginner bra, you will be ready to go get the right one.

Why Do We Need Bras?

It’s extremely important for you to ensure that your daughter isn’t thinking about bras because of peer pressure. Children today are much more aware of sexuality than we were in our times. These things probably get discussed more than we may realize or like. Talk to your daughter about beginner bras and why women should wear bras. Explain to her the functional purpose bras are meant to serve. This will also prepare her for the next step.

Types of Bras

There is more variety in the market than we might be able to remember. Even within beginner bras, there are so many sub-categories that it can be confusing even for grown women out there. Help your daughter understand these categories and the differences between them beforehand. That way, when the time comes, she’ll know what to look for rather than getting overwhelmed unexpectedly. When the time does come, make sure you let her try whatever she wants to try. Let her know your opinions but don’t be too quick to pass judgements, she must be allowed to form her own.

Consent And Physical Autonomy

If you let your daughter know how to tell when she’s ready for a bra, she will be in a good position to have a say in the matter. This matters greatly because it shapes her attitude towards her own body for the next few years at least. Teach your daughter the concept of consent and that she must always be in charge of her body. Tell her that from that point on, she will need to start making decisions regarding her own body and that nobody else should be allowed to do it for her. Picking out her own beginner bra will be her first step in that direction.

Discuss Common Facts About Breasts

You probably know that breasts grow in unexpected ways that can potentially scare anybody who doesn’t know better. Let her know that it’s normal for her breasts to grow at different rates and in different shapes and sizes. Talk to her about breast textures and explain the difference between normal and abnormal lumps. Also prepare her to know when to shift from beginner bras to standard ones. Especially with social media and body image issues, your daughter can develop low self-esteem if she is unaware of what’s considered normal.

If you adhere to these basic guidelines, buying your daughter her first bra will be a cakewalk. It will help build the foundations of a strong mother-daughter relationship you can both cherish. You can help your daughter handle puberty and also give her a memorable ‘first bra’ experience!


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Harita Patil

Last Updated: Fri Jul 17 2020

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